What is the worse that can happen? An often asked question. And one which holds us back from making possible life-changing decisions. The limitation is in the question: ‘What is the worse that can happen’ We easily fall into the trap of perceived security being a better alternative to accepting an opportunity. What if it all goes wrong? I could lose everything, but what have most people got to lose? The truth of modern life is most people have nothing.
A rented house, huge rafts of debts, and jobs which will be someone else’s at the first indication of serious illness. What we think is secure is nothing. Harsh words? One hundred precent hard and difficult sentiments to accept. How can few consider the reality of their plight?
Why not consider the truth? Because realities can become the paths of significant change. What is there to lose? Why not make a change? Why not think about desiring a change of lifestyle? I’m not writing about the so-called secrets of attracting wealth. The words are considerations of ‘feeling’ the benefits of change. Close your eyes and feel the emotional reward of owning a home. You may think or believe you’ll never own a home, so why not attempt to imagine how ownership would ‘feel.’
The moment we enrich our mind with ‘how would this feel and be?’ thoughts, magic can happen. You may not immediately own the home, but ways of ownership can become apparent. Do not visualise the home. Consider the feelings of ownership. I spoke to a work colleague. ‘How will I buy a home, stacking shelves and sitting at a till?’ I answered, think, on an emotional level, about the money you waste on nights out with friends and the two weeks in Corfu; I’m not asking you to consider a change or accepting the waste. Only consider the waste from an emotional perspective.
I have seen men lose their client’s fortunes speculating on no-chance startups. And in some weird way, the client who loses money is complacent and accepts the loss. A gambler’s mindset. In time, traders lose all sense of morals, their ethical compass pointing in one direction, personal wealth this way. And I was part of that system. The choice to leave was preceded by a ‘Why Not?’ question. I’m secure, and few I work with know my past. After all, I work in a supermarket. Why would they suspect (or believe) my stock market past?
Once there were opportunities for staff to rise the ranks. Today, degrees are crucial to management, and from what I assess, a degree without experience is not suitable for the people involved in working the shop floor of the businesses. Robot checkouts and higher prices are the keys to shareholder dividends, both results of non-emotional business choices. I’m confident top management has a ‘Why Not?’ attitude, and choices are made because of the emotional attachment to their bonuses. Consider this last statement, reason with it with care, and you may discover the secret of their undoubted success.
Why not? Does not mean taking chances. Why not? It is the question which seeks positive aspects of a choice. Why not become secure? Why not forgive? Why not begin again? Why not save for the future? Why not say no?
I’ll finish the idea with a question:
Why not become happy?
Janine Love
prepare for the worst, accept it, then act.