I recently received a submission from Janine Love. It has a fascinating insight into working with people who are difficult or somewhat aggressive. I have chosen to publish this article later in the week. For some time, I have wanted to have a theme week here on LEN and being near to a show; I wondered if the theme may work well with attending Community Members.
After approaching three regular contributors to LEN and receiving great enthusiasm, we will run the idea regularly: this weeks theme is ‘acceptance’ here are my thoughts on why it is easier to accept situations rather than fight against the inevitable.
During my life, there have been many mistakes. Some of such magnitude they have turned my life around. Whether for the better or not who could judge? During my teens and early twenties, the mistakes caused immense distress to people I knew. Now, there are no excuses to be made, and forty years later, I realise the reasons and issues which played a part in the disasters.
Today, it is easy to think about the situations without a second thought. I accept the horror of my actions, and there is no way anything can be reversed. Did I learn from the circumstances? The answer is two-fold: Up until the mid-forties the answer is I’d learned nothing. During the last ten years, the situations have shown me how NOT to live. I’m not thankful for living the experience: and do not consider them as learnings.
There was a time when I fought everything. My way the right and only way. This inflexibility meant I could not accept the ideas or suggestions of other people. And yet, there is a fault with this comment. I realise that most people do not make suggestions or attempt to help us during troubles. Most people make judgements, some moral judgements, other self-opinion. You see, one’s actions, if they are against the principals of others do not elicit help: they evoke dislike, or at worse hatred.
My inner-being must have known the truth. And the reason for my difficulties was my conscious mind rebelled against the inner-being. Therefore, life was in self-destruct. And every action became negative, compounding the nightmare.
Finally and inevitably, people in my life and had enough. Ultimate disaster awaited: the final curtain fell, the actor was booed off the stage. For a time, the conscious mind rebelled and sought somewhere to assign blame. And nothing changed, those who were actors in the failed play had moved on and were performing elsewhere. Some, of course, were prospering in spite of my leaving the company! My goodness, how angered was my conscious mind that people survived or thrived without my presence. And how I fought against the happiness of others.
I do not know when the choice was made. But one day, I decided to draw a line through the unchangeable and accepted the situations of my life. And take responsibility for my actions. It is of no consequence what the issues: I take all responsibility for everything, every failure, every loss, every disaster. I sealed the change in a letter to myself and moved away. It did not take long before everything began to change. Today the choice is to accept all for what it is: without judgments. For some people, the concept of total acceptance works. Of course, this is a testing mindset and not for everyone; in this series of articles, we are exploring different ways of reviewing the idea of acceptance.
It is essential to return to the foundational idea of the shows. Our shows are named ‘Well Being Shows’ the intent of the events is helping people find ways to become whole beings. It is fine to write about the shows for promotion. In this series of articles, we write and talk about ways to become a well being.
Tomorrow we listen to Rick Paul’s take on ‘acceptance’ it is an interesting podcast.
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